"It was a beautiful day in August and it was our last day. We didn't manage to sort out the papers and so we decided that he would fly back and we would try to marry there. We made an excursion to the nature park where he had always liked to go and there we made plans for the future-how I would visit him, how he would come back, and how we would have a future together. And then I took him to the airport. It was very hot and it was the hardest trip in my life. When we reached the airport so many happy people came towards us. They were tanned from their holidays, light-hearted, the couples hugged each other and kissed. And me? I had to say goodbye to my love.
Elisabeth Zert
He turned round one last time and then I just stood there. Alone. After two years, completely alone again. He was gone.
It was as if I tumbled into a black hole. I tried to leave the airport as fast as possible. The corridors seemed to get longer and longer, and the people approaching looked happier and happier, and I was sad back at them.
And so I went home with these feelings. And since then I've been desperately fighting to get all these papers together, to fulfil all their requirements, so that I can then marry my love in Nigeria."
It was as if I tumbled into a black hole. I tried to leave the airport as fast as possible. The corridors seemed to get longer and longer, and the people approaching looked happier and happier, and I was sad back at them.
And so I went home with these feelings. And since then I've been desperately fighting to get all these papers together, to fulfil all their requirements, so that I can then marry my love in Nigeria."
Anna Femi
"I work as a textile restorer. I have 4 children: three from my first marriage and a fourth one after getting to know my husband in 2004. Now I'm forced to earn the entire family income because my husband is enrolled in a German course and has to fulfil the integration agreement and can't receive any job seeker's allowance yet because of this. This means I have to earn around 1200 euro for the both of us.
Then another 122 euro per child. I have four children so that's around 500 euro altogether. Together that's already 1700 euro. Then I have to add the rent to that, which in my case, because I have a large family, is 830 euro. This brings me to roughly 2500 euro, minus 250 euro in free lodging. So this means: I as a mother of four must work 50 hours a week to be able to reach an income of 2200 euro. What the state demands of me here, so as to pursue my marriage, is an impossible thing for me. Yes, that's my reality."
Susanne Ceesay
"Today is the 23rd of November 2011. The last time I saw my husband was on the 26th of November 2009. That's two times 365. 600, 720, 730 minus 3: 727. I haven't seen my husband for 727 days."